IMPRESSION

The first four minutes of contact can be crucial in determining how the rest of the interaction and perhaps the whole relationship will go. But sometimes, people will formed a first impression of someone that eventually proved to be completely wrong, so I think the first impression is important but not the only factor to define someone.

There is a good example about me and one of my best friends. We were in the same class in middle school, and we lived in the same room. She grew up in a rich family and interested in any activities at school. At the beginning of the first term, we met each other in dormitory when I read a novel in the bed. She had just moved into our room, I put down my book and asked if she need some help, “No, I don’t like someone touch my stuff, but I would be pleased if you can open windows.” She said, “How arrogant a roommate!” I thought while I open windows for her, then I back to read. In coming several minutes she wanted to have a chat about some associations, but I had no interested in talking anymore, I paid my attention to read and answered her questions unconcernedly. After several weeks, we became best friends and talk about our first meeting, she said that she thought I was an unconcerned girl except for reading when we met for the first time, she also told me she was used to speak directly and can’t believe it would hurt somebody. Of course, she had found that I was enthusiastic in some clubs.

So afterward, when I form an impression of someone, I always remind myself that maybe it is not right, to be texted in the future and don’t let bias blind me.