Some Similar Feeling

PART 1:

Different culture can not be adopted easily for everyone who arrived in a new country, no matter what a strong adaptive capability you have. Liu’s need to be with other Chinese is a general phenomenon. Because as a foreigner student, you can catch up others minds and even talk with them fluently, but it is difficult to understand and adopt their culture indeed, like the excerpt of “Two Years in the Melting Pot” said, “I was born Chinese and so I think in a Chinese way.” For these days I have been in the U.S, I have a similar feeling, I think as time goes on, maybe I can make progress with English, or make friends with other local students easily, but I can not change my traditional mind anytime, because I grow up with Chinese culture, it has figured my view deeply, even now I live in a new place and face a new culture.

Therefore we can find the accounts for the need to be with other people from the same country, even if they are strangers. The same culture give people more common subject of a talk, it will easily make people much closer. Especially in abroad, most of people we meet are foreigners, so when we meet a native person, we would like to talk with him or her, and usually it will be a beginning of a new friendship.

PART 2:

Melting pot: place where large numbers of immigrants from many different countries live together.

blur: (cause sth to) become unclear or indistinct .

gap:

1. opening or break in sth or between two things

2. unfilled interval of space

3. unfilled interval of time

4. (fig) separation

5. (fig) deficiency which needs to be filled

The difference of nonverbal communication

In many situations of social communication, we communicate with each other without languages. We use gestures, eye contact, and body space in communication frequently, it is a good manner to express our real feelings, and sometimes, it is the only way to share ourselves feeling, because there are something can’t be explained by languages in our life.

We can see the nonverbal communication in everycountry, most of them have the same meaning around the world, such as nod head is means “yes”, shake head is like to say”no”, wave hand when you leave, thumb up instead of “good”. But if you observe carefully and you will notice that between your own culture and another culture, there are some differences in noncerbal communication. For example, in China, if you stare at a person straightly, this person may feel not comfortable and will think you are a rude man (or woman), especially for woman, maybe someone will consider that you are not cultured enough. But in the U.S., when you talk with someone, you need to look at the other side to show your respect.

When we communicate with others, we must notice the difference of nonverbal communication beween different cultures, use the right way of nonverbal communication to contact with another people will let our thinking more vivid and simple.

The difference of nonverbal communication

In many situations of social communication, we communicate with each other without languages. We use gestures, eye contact, and body space in communication frequently, it is a good manner to express our real feelings, and sometimes, it is the only way to share ourselves feeling, because there are something can’t be explained by languages in our life.

We can see the nonverbal communication in everycountry, most of them have the same meaning around the world, such as nod head is means “yes”, shake head is like to say”no”, wave hand when you leave, thumb up instead of “good”. But if you observe carefully and you will notice that between your own culture and another culture, there are some differences in noncerbal communication. For example, in China, if you stare at a person straightly, this person may feel not comfortable and will think you are a rude man (or woman), especially for woman, maybe someone will consider that you are not cultured enough. But in the U.S., when you talk with someone, you need to look at the other side to show your respect.

When we communicate with others, we must notice the difference of nonverbal communication beween different cultures, use the right way of nonverbal communication to contact with another people will let our thinking more vivid and simple.

IMPRESSION

The first four minutes of contact can be crucial in determining how the rest of the interaction and perhaps the whole relationship will go. But sometimes, people will formed a first impression of someone that eventually proved to be completely wrong, so I think the first impression is important but not the only factor to define someone.

There is a good example about me and one of my best friends. We were in the same class in middle school, and we lived in the same room. She grew up in a rich family and interested in any activities at school. At the beginning of the first term, we met each other in dormitory when I read a novel in the bed. She had just moved into our room, I put down my book and asked if she need some help, “No, I don’t like someone touch my stuff, but I would be pleased if you can open windows.” She said, “How arrogant a roommate!” I thought while I open windows for her, then I back to read. In coming several minutes she wanted to have a chat about some associations, but I had no interested in talking anymore, I paid my attention to read and answered her questions unconcernedly. After several weeks, we became best friends and talk about our first meeting, she said that she thought I was an unconcerned girl except for reading when we met for the first time, she also told me she was used to speak directly and can’t believe it would hurt somebody. Of course, she had found that I was enthusiastic in some clubs.

So afterward, when I form an impression of someone, I always remind myself that maybe it is not right, to be texted in the future and don’t let bias blind me.

“Mother Tongue” responsing

With respect to language as it is used in different person or situations, there are many interesting difference.

My language between peers usually more easy and humorous, and will be relatively simple, because with my own friends, I always omit some elements of a sentence, it can be understood between each other with using a few words. I also often use some words known only between my friend and I, this way we converse with each other could make us more intimately. However, with my parents, I talk to them more respectfully and with more careful thought, because I would like to give them the best part of me and I want to prove that I has grow up, I hope that they are proud of me.

In different situations, language to be used in different ways. I think I would never say “Hey! Guy!” when I meet my professor in campus. On the contrary, when I can not understand my friends sometimes, I just say “what?” instead of a long sentence, such as “Excuse me, I can not quite understand what you are talking about, can you repeat it?” So the language you use in formal situation has much difference from the language you use in less formal ones.

It's me!

Hi, I am Wenjing Yang, you can call me Wendy. I am 21 years old, and I come from Zhengzhou of China. My hometown is a beautiful city which has a long history. It is one of the earliest habitat of the Chinese nation and the cradle of ancient Chinese civilization. For example, there is the capital site of Shang dynasty more than 3500 years.

Now, I live in a new country with my parents, I love them so much because they did too many things in 21 years for me, and they always make me happy and brave when I get into a scrape.

In China, I usually read some novel every week, sometime I draw some cartoons or sketch, on the weekend, I like shopping with my best friends and have a chat. Also, I love cooking，I think cooking is fun and full of happiness.

On the other hand, I am a transfer student of civil engineer, architecture attracted my attention several years ago, and it make me determine to study it constantly, even though maybe there are so many problems I can not anticipate. I wish to be a good architect in the future, but at the present, I only want to advance my English level as soon as possible, especially in listening and speaking.